> Do I like the family I marry into (which was a bit complicated by the fact that her family lives in Iran, I first had to go there visit them)?
Curious about this one, esp given the distance. My family lives in multiple states, and I estimate at best 5-6 days with a 50% chance of seeing some of them in a year. And if I was married and had kids, I'd drop that guess to about 25%.
There has been a related post realizing the relatively small amount of time we have with our parents.
It seems, that particularly with parents living in a different region of the world, that your need to like the family is limited.
It can be extremely hard on someone if their parents don't approve of their spouse or vice versa, regardless of the amount of time everyone is in the same room. They can be emotionally torn apart, especially if either the spouse or a parent is manipulative or unyielding.
If the family is accessible I've found this to be a wonderful proxy for compatibility. Is their family structure how you'd like yours? Do you get along with and easily make friends with other family members?
It's a good sign if your personality is compatible with the family and their way of life is what you're looking for.
It's of my top indicators, I've rarely found people that strayed very far from their family in personality, hobbies, and life outlook.
> I've rarely found people that strayed very far from their family in personality, hobbies, and life outlook.
In my experience, that's generally true except for people who moved to a different country at a relatively young age (or just after high school) and stayed in that country. So in the case of OP, if her family lives in Iran and she's in the US, it's likely she has a very different life outlook and cultural view than her family.
I suspect that people who move far from their family of origin are, on average, less compatible with their family. If you are generally compatible with your family and like being around them you're more likely to prioritize living near them when making life decisions.
>Curious about this one, esp given the distance. My family lives in multiple states, and I estimate at best 5-6 days with a 50% chance of seeing some of them in a year. And if I was married and had kids, I'd drop that guess to about 25%.
Interestingly, every single one of not unsuccessful marriages/long term relationships that I know of has "extended family" compatibility in common.
Curious about this one, esp given the distance. My family lives in multiple states, and I estimate at best 5-6 days with a 50% chance of seeing some of them in a year. And if I was married and had kids, I'd drop that guess to about 25%.
There has been a related post realizing the relatively small amount of time we have with our parents.
It seems, that particularly with parents living in a different region of the world, that your need to like the family is limited.