Well, okay, you've got a point there. The only woman on my team confided in me that she wants more challenging technical work, and she hasn't talked to our boss about it because she has an image of him as being unapproachable and moody, while all the men he has worked with think he's just the most easy-going and tolerant person imaginable. (The other women do, too, but my teammate is the first woman who has reported to him. The other women are peers.)
But when I say self-aware, I mean that cognitive psychology is a favorite topic here, and people here have read a lot about the importance of intuition in every kind of thinking, and how everything about a person influences our intuition about them whether we want it to or not. Height, race, sex, age, attractiveness... and even worse, that our biases in intuition are mostly beyond the reach of introspection... and of course we can't dispense with intuition in dealing with people, so we can't really be fair, we can only be skeptical of our intuition, check it against evidence whenever possible, and try to observe our biases and compensate for them.
At least, I'm pretty sure that picture emerges clearly from the various links that have been posted here, or anywhere else that geeky guys hang out. I think we have the problem of understanding the nature of bias licked. Honestly, I think the biggest two problems are
1) An attitude problem stemming from personal wounds and resentment over the perceived advantages of women. Some men really are deeply angry with women because of their own personal disappointments.
2) Sheer ignorance about how women experience our behavior in the workplace. Knowing how we might be screwing up isn't sufficient to recognize when we're screwing up, as the example of my boss shows. We need outside input. The internet is a perfect place for women to share their experiences, since they can be anonymous if they like, and they don't have to talk to people they have complicating relationships with.
But when I say self-aware, I mean that cognitive psychology is a favorite topic here, and people here have read a lot about the importance of intuition in every kind of thinking, and how everything about a person influences our intuition about them whether we want it to or not. Height, race, sex, age, attractiveness... and even worse, that our biases in intuition are mostly beyond the reach of introspection... and of course we can't dispense with intuition in dealing with people, so we can't really be fair, we can only be skeptical of our intuition, check it against evidence whenever possible, and try to observe our biases and compensate for them.
At least, I'm pretty sure that picture emerges clearly from the various links that have been posted here, or anywhere else that geeky guys hang out. I think we have the problem of understanding the nature of bias licked. Honestly, I think the biggest two problems are
1) An attitude problem stemming from personal wounds and resentment over the perceived advantages of women. Some men really are deeply angry with women because of their own personal disappointments.
2) Sheer ignorance about how women experience our behavior in the workplace. Knowing how we might be screwing up isn't sufficient to recognize when we're screwing up, as the example of my boss shows. We need outside input. The internet is a perfect place for women to share their experiences, since they can be anonymous if they like, and they don't have to talk to people they have complicating relationships with.