> Disagreeing with someone, using valid arguments, is not the same as squelching discourse.
I can relate with your position; I understand what you're saying. I guess my point is that some words that humans speak can strike a nerve in others. For instance, apparently I'm a huge Temple Grandin fan. I didn't know that until I mentioned the name Temple Grandin to my girlfriend of nearly five years recently and she basically snapped and told me that she never wanted me to say that name again. Apparently when I first met her I had a lot of good things to say about Temple Grandin, and I guess throughout the following five years I've mentioned Temple Grandin enough that it just raises her hackles when she hears it now. She's a good person, and absolutely does not have anything against Temple Grandin. She just doesn't like hearing that name when it's my voice speaking it.
I'm not sure if you had this in mind when you said "non-binary", but I also think along the same lines you just noted, that there is a difference between "not binary", and "non-binary". The latter could evoke connotations to the culture wars and gender identity -- though that of course has nothing to do with accessibility (of TUIs, bathrooms might be another matter).
Then again, I'm neither American nor a native English speaker, so I hardly have much authority on this point.
I'm sorry that people downvoted you (they did it to me too, so I can commiserate). Imo, your question is totally valid. It's likely that you are correct in this case, and that I am in fact subconsciously relating the aforementioned phrase that annoys me with the painful period of social upheaval that we experienced here in the US.
It's important to remember that during that time, many words were misappropriated (edit) by both sides in order to fit an agenda. Before that period of upheaval, the phrases that were misappropriated were not generally offensive, even to the people who found them confusing. Up until that point I truly believe that most people regarded such unrelatable concepts (i.e. a person identifying as something other than their physical makeup would suggest) as being simply unrelatable, but tolerable. I don't think most people had strong feelings one way or the other before the upheaval. I think when I hear those "dirty" words now though, that I experience some form of PTSD. The people with the megaphone (again, on all sides) did a damn fine job dividing all of us, imo.
I can relate with your position; I understand what you're saying. I guess my point is that some words that humans speak can strike a nerve in others. For instance, apparently I'm a huge Temple Grandin fan. I didn't know that until I mentioned the name Temple Grandin to my girlfriend of nearly five years recently and she basically snapped and told me that she never wanted me to say that name again. Apparently when I first met her I had a lot of good things to say about Temple Grandin, and I guess throughout the following five years I've mentioned Temple Grandin enough that it just raises her hackles when she hears it now. She's a good person, and absolutely does not have anything against Temple Grandin. She just doesn't like hearing that name when it's my voice speaking it.