That is a spectacular bad faith reading of what was actually said. They just tried to explain why birth rated dropped, with no judgements being made one way or the other. They absolutely did not claim that "women’s purpose is to keep them high".
They even clarified that in a follow-up: "I think you misinterpreted my words: it's fantastic that humans (both men and women) have more options, if they choose to have less kids that's noone's business but their own."
> Empowerment of women made "get married and out of your parents house" a less interesting option…Having children is just another bucket list item these days.
It’s a slimy comment blaming women’s opportunities for declining birth rates. How you expect anyone to read that in good faith, I have no clue.
Trying to explain something ("A led to B") is not blaming. And again, the poster followed up clarifying that.
Constantly taking the worst possible interpretation of everything and divining the worst possible malicious motivations at the drop of a hat is one of the main reasons these debates turn in to such drek all the time.
An explanation is atonal and objective, the comment said “Having children is just another bucket list item these days.” which pretty obviously implies they don’t think well of the situation.
There is some blaming here, and not just on “cultural shifts” and “expectations”, but also “women’s empowerment”.
And it’s not like the things they mention are things men weren’t doing before that are allowed by modernity. Men travelled all the time (ex: war), while women were expected to stay home. Men’s virginity wasn’t prized, it was to women that having accepted premarital sex was new. Women being able to prioritize their careers was new.
As the bigotry goes on HN this comment is pretty tame, but civility doesn’t excuse ignorance, in fact it makes it more dangerous.
They even clarified that in a follow-up: "I think you misinterpreted my words: it's fantastic that humans (both men and women) have more options, if they choose to have less kids that's noone's business but their own."