If you know or suspect they're an Asker the discomfort disappears because you say "No" and they say "OK, cool".
"Can my family and I stay for two weeks?".
Then:
"No." (looks cold and heartless; do I want to project cold and heartless? Will they hate me?).
"I'm so sorry but I'm not able to. The house is a mess and it's really small" (performative, hand-wringing reluctance; we both know I'm lying).
"I just don't like to share my environment" (most truthful; might look petty to those who don't understand the need for privacy to that degree).
reply
If you know or suspect they're an Asker the discomfort disappears because you say "No" and they say "OK, cool".